How to recognise a commitment phobe!

In any relationship, the other person may begin to act strange at times and you won’t understand why. For instance if they’re all for the relationship one minute and the next they are doing a 360 the opposite way. If this is early on in the relationship,  then you need to consider whether you are dealing with a commitment phobe. It’s all goes back to it being a game! Commitment phobes will always play games cause deep down they can’t handle relationships, they just like the idyllic mental image of one!

Some signs that may help you identify a phobe!

Shotgun– If they jump on the band wagon from the start.. coming on strong like something you know is not normal but you let it slide as it’s all new and still amazing. Too much too soon…run!! Like forest gump!

Track record – If they’ve never had a long relationship and have had a string of people that keep coming out of the wood work who are dubbed as ‘ppl they were seeing for a few weeks’! Yes typical sign of a phobe! Especially if they’re 30 plus!

Controllers – If you find the person in question making all the plans to suit themselves, not really considering your opinions in making any social arrangements, if they’re demanding and possessive, you need to jump ship!. Controllers are just not meant to be in relationships as they’re never willing to compromise on any situation. It’s either their way or the highway!

Turbulent – The early stages of a relationship 0-6months, well these should be bliss and amazing and everything should flow like a river! If you’re encountering situations where you’re having arguments in stage 0-3 months then it’s time to do your own 360′! Turbulence should be experienced on planes only!

Effort to lack of – If the man/women makes an unreal effort from the start and then suddenly a few weeks later, you’re wondering if it’s the same person. Classic sign of a commitment phobe, they go from giving 100% to 0 in a matter of days!

xx JC xx

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Jenny Conlon is a broadcast, freelance journalist, writer and fashion and entertainment critic. Her work has featured on the RTÉ. fashion and entertainments website. She has assisted production of RTÉ's Morning Ireland and The Business. Jenny produced and presented a weekly fashion and entertainment show Girls Talk Back on 103.2 Dublin City Fm and was Newsreader and Editor of the newsroom. Her work continues to feature in Irish publications such as The Irish Tatler, U magazine and The Dubliner. Jenny completed her Masters in International Journalism in 2009. She is looking forward to a jam packed 2012 where she will continue broadcasting and writing and being inspired. She will be modelling for a high street fashion shoot and plans to climb Mount Kilimanjaro.....

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