Break ups and understated, underestimated control freaks – Save yourself!!!

I think most people have been prone to a break up at some point in their lives. It’s not the most joyous experience one could go through, in fact, there’s probably nothing more draining in life. But there are a few things that you can do to alleviate and potential head wrecking, repetitive, mentally draining activity!

Know when you’re heading for an iceberg – If you are arguing with the guy/girl within a few months of meeting, this is not normal behavior! The first six months should be plain sailing, Jack and Rose style. If you’re arguing or things are complicated or an effort within the first 0-6 months then get a life jacket and get in your lifeboat before it’s too late!!! Early arguments, complications and confusion should signal alarm bells. Avoid that ice-berg as they do say that only 1/3 of an entire iceberg is visible above water, don’t wait around to see the rest! Is YOUR mantra……. ‘We are so good together?’ …If not, please keep reading..!

Relationship via social media.. AH AH AH (finger waving windshield wiper motion) – If a guy/girl only communicates via text, email and facebook then this is not good. We don’t mind the initial few texts but we’ve become a generation of where  deleting someone from fb is more offensive than reality. If the only form of communication is via social networking then, HUESTON WE HAVE A PROBLEM! You’re heading for trouble. A person who lifts a phone and calls is like a breath of fresh air these days! It’s not 1920, we all have free minutes, use them! It’s more productive to use your vocal cords!

Control Freaks – ‘control freak is a term for a person who attempts to dictate how everything around them is done’. If the person in question is happy when you are alone, just the two of you but shows signs of jealously when you’re out with friends, then this is a sign that you might be in the presence of a control freak. If their mood changes when you introduce them to friends, if everything appears to be on their terms, times to meet, places that you go… if they comment on your weight (MAJOR),  if they make you feel bad about yourself or say that you’re embarrass them in any way shape or form. If they verbally abuse you for no real reason, the list goes on…! I think there are many levels and forms of a control freak, some subtle and others more obvious! Either way, be aware of them cause once they get under your skin, they’re hard to get away from!

As I’ve said before, if your relationship is not running and flowing like Niagara falls within the first six months, then its time to get on your dingy and float on out!!

The easiest 3 step plan to get over a relationship is to ………………

CUT them out —-> OVERRIDE the situation and ———> PROCEED with your life…. because you do not find your future looking in your past!


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Jenny Conlon is a broadcast, freelance journalist, writer and fashion and entertainment critic. Her work has featured on the RTÉ. fashion and entertainments website. She has assisted production of RTÉ's Morning Ireland and The Business. Jenny produced and presented a weekly fashion and entertainment show Girls Talk Back on 103.2 Dublin City Fm and was Newsreader and Editor of the newsroom. Her work continues to feature in Irish publications such as The Irish Tatler, U magazine and The Dubliner. Jenny completed her Masters in International Journalism in 2009. She is looking forward to a jam packed 2012 where she will continue broadcasting and writing and being inspired. She will be modelling for a high street fashion shoot and plans to climb Mount Kilimanjaro.....

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