Can a long distance relationship work…?

Have you always had a negative view of long distance relationships? Are you in a long distance relationship? Have you turned down a relationship due to long distance? Here are some obvious but sometimes lacking ingredients which need to be sprinkled into a successful long distance relationship….


50/50...A long distance relationship will only work if you want it to. The two people involved in the relationship need to want to make it work. If only one person is making an effort then you’re heading for the ejection seat lever! One person needs to eventually be willing to move country or county… cause otherwise there’s no end to the distance and it becomes a tedious and wearing process. It also needs to be the right person and the right time and you’ll need to be clear on what you want and where you’re going! Zee feeling needs to be mutual!! R.E.S.P.E.C.T… sing it sista…!


KEEPING THE SPICE AILVE… You need to have things to look forward to like weekends away and little thoughtful surprises. You need to make an effort cause if you start flagging… feelings start fading… Now that it’s the 21st century, whatsapp is a great idea as it makes distance feel not so distant! You can spice things up with sexy texts and pictures. Everyone loves a sexy text or a raunchy picture…let’s not deny it! Don’t deny the BADY! Variety is the spice a life… word!


COMMUNICATION IS IMPERATIVE… If you’re living in different countries you’re living different lives… therefore it’s so important that you communicate properly. You need to feel like you’re part of one another’s lives even though you’re not in the same place. Open communication and respect will be the making of a successful long distance relationship. Call me….!!


You need to fully trust your other half because if you don’t… cracks will start to appear and theses are often irreparable. You will lead separate social lives for a time therefore you’ll need to trust your other half in every instance. You don’t want no Tiger Woods!! Ah ah ah (finger waving windshield wiper waving motion!)


Long distance will only work if you’re happy within yourself. You emulate externally what you’re feeling internally. You can’t fake feelings and you can’t fake happiness. If you’re not happy within yourself then no relationship will make you happy whether it’s long distance or not…


. If you’re into you’re other half as much as they’re into you.. the relationship won’t feel like an effort… it should be a naturally flowing transaction. AND it should be FUN. If you’re not having fun… then you’re wasting your time… you may as well pull the plug there and then…!


HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY… If you’re not feeling it… then don’t pretend you are… what is the point of that?! Don’t lead you’re other half on if you’re body’s saying let’s go but your heart is saying no... you’re mind, body and soul need to be aligned! If they’re not… the only person you’re fooling is yourself….

Long distance relationships can be the best relationships on the planet… the only thing that you need for a successful long distance relationship is the… je ne sais quoi!

Happy Easter babies….



A random act of Kindness… Thank you Mark!

So sometimes it takes someone to move half way accross the world for you to get back in contact with them. That’s what happened with myself and Sinead O Sullivan. Myself and Sinead worked together when I was in college! We had hit it off from the start and always laughed our heads off eating sweets and drinking coke in the stock room! Hangovers on Sundays were especially trying but we managed to get one another through!

Sinead had now moved to Australia with her boyfriend Mark and I’ve being following their journey via their blog and their facebook! Sinead made a really generous donation before she moved to Oz to support me in my quest in the Landan marathon. As Mark was having difficulty finding a job in Oz, they both made a pact that if Mark found a job that he would do a random act of kindness.

A few weeks ago, Mark was told that he had got the job he applied for and wanted. Mark’s random act of kindness was making a donation to me in my quest to raise 2k for the Landan marathon (I believe Sinead may have had an influnce in this decision). Mark donated me an astounding €100 as a gesture of good will which almost made me cry. The generosity is beyond words.

I’ve never met Mark but would like to thank him so much for his overwhleming and generous random act of kindness. Truly touched and hopefully we’ll get to meet one day and I can thank you in person!

Thanks Mark and Sinead and so happy you’re both living it up in Oz… -€100!!!


Girls…Chivalry is not dead… It’s alive and kicking!

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So just when I lost hope and thought that chivalry was dead, I was astounded to the core to realise that it’s not dead at all, it’s alive and kicking! Especially in Luxembourg where I went last week!
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There are so many Irish people in Lux too, like who knew! The streets are like a Disney film and the vibe is uber cool! So many cool cafe’s and bars and boutiqutes and florists and the buildings are so historical and untouched!
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You’ll defo find things in life in the most unexpected places when you’re least looking for them!
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But I would like to retract my comments over the past two years and my negativity for the male race. Chivalry has never been more alive 😉


I ran 19 miles… n sacrificed Arthur for Barry! A sin!

Yeah so last St Patrick’s day was a blur and this one will remain very crystal clear in my mind. I ran 19 miles today and can safely say that I think joining up for the Landan marathon has change my life… Not only has it kept me out of pubs (Sorry Arthur and Paddy)(Had a date with Barry instead… tea!) it’s given me a new passion, determination and drive! I think I’ve a new obsession!
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Running is like free therapy… For anyone who gets stressed or feels a bit sh1te about life… I highly recommend going for a jog/run. The worse the weather the better!! Makes things more dramatic!
I’ve less than 6 weeks left until the Landan marathon! Totally scared out of my mind but if I can do this anybody can!

I’ll continue to run life a mofo and live the disco dream… and I would like to invite anybody who is around on 21st April to join me for a drink after my 26.2 miles (that’s hoping I make it!!) I plan to become a raging alcoholic for the day and make it up to Arthur (Guinness) and Patrick (St.Patrick) for not drink a Guinness or 10 today!

Next year Ireland… i’m coming to get you!

Lots of love

Your no.1 fan


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So I first met the wonderful Jenny Conlon when we worked together in Roches Stores. To say she was a fire cracker would be an understatement. From the moment our shifts would start she never stopped talking but my god did she have a fascinating life. I was never sure of it was just cause she talked so fast everything sounded interesting but she could make buying lunch in M&S so dramatic.I remember for my 21st she got me a birthday card with scratch cards in it, before I’d even begun to scratch Jenny had already staked a claim in my winnings, good Karma and all that! Not long after that Jenny decided to move to London and follow her passion of journalism and I opted to stay in Dublin and settle for a job in insurance.
Speaking of good Karma myself and Mark made a pact with the man…

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Go HARD or Go HOME! 2 hours 4 minutes

Soooo I ran a half Marathon last week in Tunbridge Wells. I know it’s astounding stuff! Didn’t quite realise the extent of the hills on the route until I looked at the map on the train… on my way there!! It was probably the toughest challenge I’ve encountered physically to date but I gave it my best shot and came in in 2hrs 4mins! Such a great feeling when I finished it! However I’m only begining to walk properly now as my legs took the hit!!! I only have to double that distance now for the Landan Marathon on 21 April! GO HARD OR GO HOME!! Gerrup owara it! RRRRRRRRRRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr

I would also like to thank the random ppl who gave me jelly babies on the way and also to Sophie for the lend of her Ipod as the music was key especially when it started snowing! Thanks Sophie and also Mumford & Sons (which I had to play on repeat a few times as didn’t have time to stop and change and my fingers were numb! The Little Lion man… I know every word!) Thanks to Rhianna and Pitbull for getting me up a few steep hills!


I also went to visit my charity Hearing Dogs for the Deaf on Saturday in High Wycombe. It was so amazing to meet everyone and meet Robyn the labrador too! People who do things for charity are such nice ppl! We also had a run around the field in the snow, did a bit of yoga, had a lovey pasta dish for lunch and got our T-Shirts, balloons and dog ears hair bands for the marathon.

Goodbye pub, hello gym and pavement
Goodbye alcohol and social smoking, hello water and diet coke
Goodbye love handles, hello toneage
Goodbye hangovers, hello 8am on a Saturday and Sunday
Goodbye the fear, hello 2013


So I is running the Landan Marathon 2013! I would be eternally grateful for any sponsorship! Anything at all… Donations will be rewarded with Irish Barry’s teabags, love letters, poems… whatever you want really!!! I’m also running a half marathon in Kent this weekend! 22k here I come! From a girl only ever ran up a staircase takes Kent! I have 2 more months to raise 1500.00 for the Landan Marathon and my chosen charity… Hearing Dogs for The Deaf… Tonight Matthew… I’m doing it for the dogs!

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